Monday, October 4, 2010

ONANI 4: Realisation? Misconception?

Don't ask me how i came to this...not so much of a conclusion, but a realization about something la. That something is a lil emotion we call love.. or does it qualify to be an emotion in the first place!!!? hoho, that's the interesting part. So really, what is love? like, for real. After having every individual on this planet claiming to have felt it, or have never embraced it. Do we actually know exactly what we are referring to? Well after going thru the motions myself i think i finally get it, a definition that satisfies my logic.

(note: this love in discussion is one that involves unrelated members of the opposite sex. not the love for parents, God, materialistic stuff or even barn animals)

In my kamus Oxford Dwibahasa, the subject love can be defined as =

A thought mechanism actually. A program if you like. One that is hardwired in our minds to makes us blindfully attracted towards members of the opposite sex due to the activity of hormones usually triggered in our sexual prime that is our youth, in order for us to mate, thus ensuring the continuity of our species. Being the complex beings we are, we tend to over analyse, over rate, over indulge and over imagine a simple natural mechanism. We put it on a pedestal, glorifying such a wonderful 'feeling', an unseen force that brings such joy and is such a miracle that it can hit you one time and last a life time.

But here's a reality check, my definition on the issue stands because love is not a miracle that hits you one time and lasts forever or anything like that. 'Love' is in fact a much colder reality than anyone would readily admit. Think about it. Love doesn't just hit you one time. Be in denial if you may but you know the truth, that you can definitely, or have loved more than one in your life. (which is why, thank God to Islam for polygamy... if done right la) Moving on, love is also not a thing that lasts. In fact, love either manifests into something else or diminishes altogether, since it is not a miracle feeling to begin with, but merely a program that evaporates after fulfilling it's function. I know u see couples growing old together and stuff but is it really because they still have that red hot passion between them? Or is it because u just got used to each other? or is it more troublesome to seperate as so many responsibilities and commitment become entangled between the two lovers such as their offspring? financial security? future stability assurance? family honor? reputation? etc. So yes, love manifests or it ends. It does not last forever. And so here i am, convinced that this is the real deal, what we perceive as 'love', really is.

(note: this is MY take on the issue, am NOT saying this is DEFINITELY what it is.kalau nak emo with my writings please leave, who the heck asked u to waste your time here in the first place? i definitely didn't.Peace out.)

3 comments:

  1. Hey munif, quite an interesting topic. U know there are official classifications for types of loves? According to the Greek's there are 4 types:

    Storge (affection): familial love, born out of familiarity and mutual understanding. This type of love transcends all kinds of discrimination. Married couples will usually evolve into this stage later on.

    Philia: (friendship) a strong bond between people who share common interests or activity. Relationship not as strong as storge, though.

    Eros: (romantic love) passion and sexual attraction. The 'love' is most commonly referred to in books and tv.

    Agape: (charity) an ability to care for people regardless of circumstance. The greatest kind of love. Love for God and animals also fall under this category.

    Since feelings are not static, they can change at whim. Storge and Philia an transform into Eros, and vice-versa. Charity is excluded because it is all-encompassing. Just wanna put things into perspective :)

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  2. That's pretty interesting stuff, Shaza. My mind will be pondering for days on this :)
    And Munif, good to see you blogging again man!

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  3. Thanks sara n shazato!! ouwh, will definitely try my best to regularly blurt out stuff.haha! :p

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